So, today Oliver asked me to stop laughing because it made him sad. What!? Yes - apparently when Josh and I talk and laugh it makes Oliver feel bad and sad. He told us to stop laughing and that it wasn't nice. He instantly related some experiences with other children. "It makes other children feel bad when you are laughing and so you shouldn't do it. It makes me sad and mad." Wow, kiddo. You just communicated your first pangs of jealousy.
My response: "Sometimes Mommy and Daddy talk and laugh because we are friends and we like talking to each other. We love you very much, too."
When Oliver takes time to have more than a four word sentence, it's pretty darn important and this feeling he had needed to stop. After I responded he sat in his car seat and started playing obnoxiously to get my attention. It toned down after a while and I hope I said the right thing. I forget how fragile my monster of a boy can be. Even adults struggle with communicating feeling jealous, slighted, ashamed, and unworthy. This kid is starting to get it - AMEN.
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